If you’ve never worked with an editor before…

You’ve put a lot of time, energy, effort, and probably emotion, into your writing. It’s natural to be protective of it. If this is your first time working with an editor, it’s normal to feel some resistance to an editor’s feedback. This may be anything from brief surprise to feeling downright offended. However, assuming your chosen editor is the right fit for you, your process, and your writing, overcoming this resistance and making peace with the editing process is easier than you think.

First, remember that your editor has good intentions for your writing, and for you. While the feedback may feel like a personal attack, it’s not. Your editor isn’t criticizing you; they are offering constructive feedback to help you communicate your ideas to your audience in the best possible light. Also, remember the editing process is collaborative; your editor wants to work with you, not against you. Some feedback may require some back-and-forth communication for both parties to be on the same page.

Then, take some time to process the feedback. It may take only a few minutes, or you may need several days. After the initial reaction has passed, return to the feedback. You may find that, now that you know what to expect, the feedback makes sense and you’re ready to incorporate it into your next draft.

If you’re still feeling resistance after some processing time, ask yourself what, specifically, is not resonating with you. Maybe you suspect the editor interpreted a part of your writing differently than you intended. In this case, the exact suggestions may not make sense, but now you know that section needs some clarification. Communicate this to your editor. Maybe you don’t feel the editor’s suggestions make sense with your writing style. Let them know why so they can work with your style, not against it. Maybe there was one comment that didn’t sit well with you, so you were resistant to all of the feedback, but now you recognize you agree with the feedback overall, and it’s just one comment you’re not sure about. Tell your editor. Maybe you’re frustrated because the feedback doesn’t make sense to you. Ask your editor for clarification. Editing is a collaborative process that requires open communication.

When you keep an open mind, an open line of communication, and a collaborative attitude, you’ll be thrilled by the end results!